Man Insists on His Mother Being in Delivery Room During Wife’s Birth, She Refuses, Resulting in Heated Discussion

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    r/AITAH⚫ 13 hr. ago ProjectAppropriate 50 AITAH for not wanting my MIL to be in the hospital room when I give birth to my daughter?
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    I (22F) am due to give birth to my husband (28M) and I's daughter in about 2 weeks. A few days ago we were discussing birth plans and the topic of who will be in the room came up. He said exactly this "Your mom, your sister probably, Ava (My bestfriend) and obviously my mom will be in the room, correct?" this caught me off
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    guard since we had spoken about it at an earlier time, but I just corrected him because I thought he might've forgotten. So I said "Actually, I would prefer it if she wasnt in the room during the birth, but I don't mind if she comes in to visit before the birth and after the birth". He immediately got upset and said "so you get to have family in the
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    room but I don't? Its my baby too" I explained again that any of his family are more than welcome to visit before and after the birth but I'd prefer not to be spread eagle in front of his family. I especially don't feel comfortable with his mom being there at all because she had shamed me and judged me during my entire pregnancy, but I was willing to
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    compromise so he doesn't feel like he cant have any family there.
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    He still wasn't listening to me and started to get mad and yell at me. He was really set on the fact that its his baby too which I already know but like I said, I just don't want them there DURING the birth, I don't mind before and after. He still is upset about this and has been avoiding me since this argument and will only talk
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    to me in the morning when I make us breakfast. I'm afraid of when I have the baby that he won't except my wishes and still let her in the room, or worse he just won't show up at all. AITAH for this?
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    Bartok_The_Batty • 3h ago Some people get so fixated on the baby that they forget about the mother. The mother who will be in a very vulnerable state. This is a medical procedure not a theatrical special.
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    The hospital will listen to you, not your husband. Only you get to decide who is in the room with you. ΝΤΑ
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    • Good Day TheJay 8h ago I'm a man and a dad. My wife and I have two kids (so far). It's always been 100% my wife's decision who's in the room because even though they're my children, too, it's her and (that're gonna have fluids and goops coming
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    out) on display during the whole process, her excruciating pain and uninhibited expression thereof, her "moment" (potentially several hours) to get through, so it's up to her who gets to be there to witness ALL of it.
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    Do this: make your husband a delicious meal, then ask him several hours later to get naked from the waist down, lay down on his back, spread his legs wide apart in stirrups, then pee and poop out everything he's got while wearing one of those birth simulator pads on his
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    abdomen put up to the highest setting. YOU tell HIM who'd YOU'D like to have in the room for that moment of his and let him see how he feels about that.
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    After all, you helped him make what's coming out of him, so you totally get to decide who's there for it. NTA.
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    . Fluffy_Somewhere... • 8h ago "It's only MY though!!!!!! She's free to see the baby AFTER I'm done BREAKING IN HALF to give birth. And, if you say ONE more i word about it, YOU won't be there either!"
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    Practice your crazy eyes before you do this for maximum effect.
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    iaspiretobeclever ⚫3h ago NTA: Also, call the labor unit because you probably can't have that many people anyway. Usually it's 2 people. in delivery. This keeps the pathways clear for the care team to respond to emergencies.
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    2Tears-n-a-bucket ⚫ 12h ago Nta. Tell him she can be in the delivery room after he has a colonoscopy in front Shut that of the men in your family. down real quick.
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    fr... 13h ago • Edited 8h ago NTA and I really don't understand all these posts about people in the delivery room. Birth is not a spectator sport. It might be his baby but it's YOUR body. When he can push out a kid, he can have his mommy there.
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    Make sure you tell the nurses you don't want her there and they'll eject her when she tries to stay or he tries to sneak her in Edit:: thank you for the award, my first one!!

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